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We will counsel you on your secret issues.
This is Hello, the National Competition on Issues.
Today's episode will go beyond borders.
We've prepared a "Foreigner Issue Special" today.
We've also invited some special guests.
- Let's welcome Kang Nam. - Hello.
- Cao Lu. - Hello.
- Robin. - Hello.
- Benji from B.I.G. - Hello.
- Welcome. - Do you have any plans for the holiday?
I'm going to China to see my family in two years.
- For a vacation? - I received a five day vacation.
- Five days? - To Beijing?
- No, my hometown is Honam. - Honam?
- In Gwangju? - It's next to Gwangju.
In Jeolla Province?
- She might ride the Honam railway. - I know.
(Happy holidays with your family!)
- I heard that you prepared a special performance for this program. - Yes.
- He majored in violin in Julliard School. - The violin?
- The violin? - That's cool.
- Violin from Julliard School. - Right.
(He looks amazing.)
(I hope you guys like it.)
("Zigeunerweisen" by Sarasate)
(The stage is filled with a beautiful sound from the violin.)
(Breathtaking technique)
(Playing violin with his body)
(What a talented guy!)
(Amazing!)
Before we start,
Cao Lu, do you have any issues these days?
I have an issue.
- Being an entertainer isn't a stable profession. - Right.
You'll be ruined if you have bad luck.
You might lose all your work.
- Don't you agree with me? - Sure.
- That's why... - We agree.
- That's why I'm looking for a second job. - A second job?
- I want to open a dumpling restaurant. - Dumplings?
- Why do you want to make dumplings? - I already thought of a name.
- What? - "Cao Lu's Fulfilling Dumplings."
- That sounds good. - Isn't it great?
- That sounds good. - Are you going to come?
- Okay. - We'll go.
- Fulfilling dumplings. - I haven't saved enough money yet.
- I don't have money. - Get a loan.
A loan? I might go bankrupt if I get a loan.
(Be careful of excessive loans.)
I know some people who went bankrupt like that.
Let's see the keywords first. Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
"Why Are You Doing This To Me?"
"No! No! Never!"
"I'm Scared Of My Wife."
- This issue is from a Brazilian. The country of Samba. - Brazil.
- Yes! - The title is, "I'm Scared Of My Wife."
Hello, I'm a Brazilian man and I've been married for three years.
I really love Korea.
Pork belly, pork neck, kimchi stew, doenjang jjigae,
haejang-guk, roasted duck, loach soup.
I really love Korean food.
The list can go on and on.
But I'm actually worried about my Korean wife.
"Turn of the TV. Can't you be more productive?"
"Please do something with your life. Move! Move! Hurry!"
My wife wants me to be busy with my life.
But this is unfair.
It's because I try my best.
I go to language school in the morning and clean up our dog's mess.
- I do all the housework for a living. - He takes care of the dog.
But my wife and I are different.
"Why can't you do this right? It's so frustrating."
My wife doesn't like my style.
She wants me to do everything without mistakes.
I'd also be happy if I was that kind of guy.
But Korean culture is way different from Brazilian culture.
I don't know what I should do.
I hope your program can help me.
(Help me!)
- Most Brazilians act kind of slowly. - Right.
- They're more relaxed. - Koreans are always in a hurry though.
I went to France and I couldn't adjust to their culture.
- They were eating a tiny spaghetti for two hours. - I know.
They enjoy eating slowly.
I had a hard time in Korea because of that.
I tried to eat faster,
but it was hard to keep up.
- You weren't used to it. - Right.
This issue is because of cultural differences.
Let's bring out our guest.
- Please come out! - Please come out!
(Let's meet our guest who's worried about his wife.)
(Bernardo)
- Can you introduce yourself? - He's fast.
Hello, I'm Bernardo from Brazil.
- Hello. - Nice to meet you.
He's from Brazil.
How's the culture in Brazil? Are things done slowly?
That's right.
- Our behavior is slower than Koreans. - It's slower.
Brazilians enjoy dancing to Samba music.
I don't like it because it's too loud.
You don't like Samba?
Don't you hold festivals almost every day?
- I don't think Samba is my taste. - Really?
I came to Korea and saw Dong-yeob...
doing a Brazilian Samba dance in a commercial.
- Right. - I thought it was funny.
- You thought it was funny. - Yes.
Let's talk about your wife.
How does she want to change you?
In 2014,
I came to Korea and stayed for about a year.
We got married and went back to Brazil.
We lived in Brazil for two years.
We came back this year and it's only been four months.
- 4 months? - It's only been 4 months?
After we got married,
my wife wanted me to change and do everything in a hurry.
Isn't it good to hurry and be busy with your life?
It's good.
But most Koreans order their children.
Moms say, "Hurry up and clean!"
After a meal, they say "Brush your teeth. Hurry!"
It's different from Brazilian culture.
My mother didn't force me to brush my teeth.
- She wanted you to learn on your own. - Yes.
But most Koreans always give orders.
"Clean the table. Do the dishes."
They're always saying "Do this, do that."
- That sounds true. - In the morning,
- I go to language school. - Language school.
Then I stay home in the afternoon.
I have to do the laundry and clean the house.
My wife always says, "Hurry up!"
She wants me to work more efficiently.
I can't work like that. When I do the dishes,
I want to take my time and do it thoroughly.
My wife says, "Why are you taking so long?"
"Just let me do it if you're going to do it like that."
Are you trying to avoid doing housework?
Is that why you came out today?
That's kind of true.
Really?
- I thought so. - He's cute.
He doesn't want to work.
I also want to live cleanly,
but it's hard for me to change so quickly.
You're okay with housework, but it's hard for you to change.
But your wife wants you to change. Is that the problem?
Yes. For example,
many Brazilians use maids to clean their house.
They clean the house like a maid.
- A person who cleans the house professionally. - It's a profession.
That's why I never cleaned the house since I was young.
I started after I got married.
- Does a maid come to your house in Brazil? - Yes.
- That's a profession. - Yes.
It's a common profession in Brazil.
- It's common. - Really?
Yes. I do want to change.
- It's tough. - But it's difficult.
You want her to understand?
- You want some time. - I hope she can understand.
I understand that he might be frustrated.
The culture is different, and Brazilians usually have housemaids.
It sounds tough. Let's meet your wife.
Hello.
- Hello. - Do you tell your husband...
to hurry up and get angry with him often?
I kind of have a short temper.
Didn't you think about understanding him...
because of cultural differences?
- He's a very slow learner. - How slow is he?
He made me a chicken breast dish after we got married.
All you have to do is grill it.
But he grilled it for an hour and a half.
- How? - Doesn't it get burned?
Doesn't it get burned?
He took out the chicken breast...
and thought about how he should cut it. He cut it in half.
He sprayed pepper...
and thought about spraying more pepper or not.
That's how he spent an hour and a half.
- That sounds like too much. - I know.
When we get ready to go out,
I start preparing first.
When I'm finished, he says,
"Should I change now? Did you see my wallet?"
It takes at least 30 minutes to an hour.
When we're walking, I walk faster than him.
I always grab his arm and drag him around.
I always open the door first wherever we go.
It's because I always arrive earlier.
(That sounds frustrating.)
Why did you grill a chicken breast for an hour and a half?
I wanted to make a delicious meal for her.
I'm not familiar with cooking either.
I kept searching on the internet.
I had to cook, check, and look at the internet again.
I want to ask something to your wife.
Most wives are worried that their husbands don't help them at all.
But although he's slow, he's trying his best.
- Right. - Isn't it romantic?
- He's cute. - He tries to work.
Does he make a lot of mistakes?
- He makes many mistakes. - Like what?
When he's carrying the dishes to set the table,
he suddenly wants to do something funny.
He dances with the soup in his hand.
(Soup dish dancing)
- He spills it. - Isn't that cute?
- It's so cute. - It'd be better if he didn't spill it, but that's a problem.
Does it take a long time for him to clean it up?
- Does he think again? - When I looked,
- he didn't even clean it up. - Really?
Is there anything else?
He washed new jeans and white clothes together.
- Oh my gosh. - He washed them together?
- That's bad. - That was just after we got married.
He didn't know that was a mistake.
- You sound like his mom. - Do you know you make many mistakes?
I'm human. Anyone can make mistakes.
I just want to make her happy.
I think I can make mistakes.
When we eat,
I sometimes spill noodles on my clothes...
- or I spill coffee. - On the floor?
On the floor.
Even when we're having a good time, the mood suddenly changes.
When I make a mistake.
My wife wears a scary face when she's mad.
- I don't want to make mistakes. - What else is there?
Oh my gosh.
He sounds like a Korean person.
-Once, my wife's glasses were on the floor. - Her glasses.
I stepped on them by mistake.
I broke her glasses.
I didn't know what to do.
I didn't tell my wife and took her glasses...
- to an optical store and asked them to fix it. - That's cute.
Once, when I was sitting on the toilet,
- the cover broke. - The toilet cover?
- Yes. - Why?
- Did you jump on it? - I lost my balance when I was sitting.
I didn't know what I to do. I grabbed the toilet cover...
and went to the market and bought an identical one.
I bought an identical one and changed it.
You were worried she might get mad?
- How cute. - He's so nice.
- He's so cute. - Normally if a toilet cover breaks, we'd say,
"It broke. What do we do?"
But he bought a new one.
- He ran to the market. - He's scared of you.
(Let's look at his various expressions!)
- I feel sorry for him. - He's an adult who's almost 30 years old.
But he keeps making mistakes like a child.
When he broke the toilet cover,
he didn't sit down normally.
He was dancing and sat down too strong.
He was dancing?
- You were doing a Samba dance! - You were dancing.
It's because of your Samba dance.
Why were you dancing when you had to poo?
- It wouldn't have been broken if you sat down normally. - That's right.
(Ollah! Samba!)
What kind of husband do you want him to be?
I wish he can learn how to manage his life more.
- Manage his life? - I hope he can become a more skillful person.
Is there anyone like that near you?
My brother-in-law is like that.
(Upset)
Why are you so skillful?
- Me? - Yes.
- My sister-in-law might think so. - Who do you think is more worried?
- I think it's mostly because of cultural differences. - Right.
In your opinion, is he really that slow?
No, it's not that bad.
Does your sister-in-law have a short temper? Is your wife like that too?
I have a short temper.
- You have a short temper? - Yes. I do most of the cleaning first.
Did you ever cook for your wife?
I usually make dinner these days.
- Wow. - How long does it take to make dinner?
I think it takes about 30 minutes.
(Is it possible in 30 minutes?)
Your brother-in-law said that he doesn't seem to be that slow.
Isn't he doing a good job then? Why are you frustrated?
When we live together, I feel many things that people don't know about.
That's right.
- You have to live together. - Although it's uncomfortable,
I can understand since we're a family.
I can understand because I love him.
I'm worried that he might suffer when he starts to go to work.
I think that's why I keep worrying about his mistakes.
- Can you give an example? - No matter how impolite an employee is,
he always says, "thank you."
He never loses his smile. I'm afraid that people might look down on him.
- I know what you mean. - I'm worried that people...
- might underestimate him. - I understand.
He can make a complaint about bad service,
but he keeps smiling and always thinks positively.
- Is it hard for you to get angry? - It's hard.
When I worked in a company in Brazil, my boss asked,
"Bernardo, don't you ever get angry?"
I also want to get angry, but it's hard.
- I seldom get angry. - Really?
- Sometimes I... - That's funny.
It's all right.
(It's all right.)
"It's all right."
(I'm the saint from Brazil.)
- Is there anything else that your wife wants to change about you? - Yes.
- What? - My body.
- Your body? - Your body?
My height is 170kg.
- I mean... - 170kg?
- 170kg? - That's enormous.
170cm.
I used to be 90kg.
- Your weight? - I was very fat.
- That's surprising. - I was really fat.
My wife said,
- "Why aren't you exercising?" - "Hurry up!"
I exercised hard and lost 20kg.
(He lost 20kg!)
- Wow. - That's amazing.
- He really loved his wife. - Let's see how much he has changed.
There's a picture?
- My gosh. - He became a different person.
Who is that?
- Who is that? - He looks so different.
- Who is that? - Is that Bernardo?
- He looks so tough. - Bernardo?
- Is that really you? - He looks so different.
- Oh my gosh. - He looks like Mario.
- He looks like Super Mario. - Super Mario!
- I didn't recognize him. - Super Mario.
- He's cute. - He became a different person.
He looks so nice though.
- That's unbelievable. - Let's talk with his wife.
- My goodness. - This is what he looked like before?
He became a totally different person.
- Why didn't you compliment him? - He tried so hard.
- My wife likes guys with muscular bodies. - Muscular guys.
- She always compares me with guys on TV. - Who?
- Who? - Like Gong Yoo.
- Gong Yoo? - Gong Yoo?
- Gong Yoo - He's a ghost.
- He's not human. - Gong Yoo is a goblin.
- He's a goblin! - It's because Gong Yoo is a goblin.
He's not a human being.
My wife watches Gong Yoo on TV...
and looks at me like I'm a squid.
- A squid? - A squid?
You shouldn't make gestures like that.
- So what? - So...
You lost 20kg.
Was your wife impressed? Did she compliment you?
- No. She didn't tell me that I did a good job. - She wasn't impressed.
- She took it for granted. - She wasn't impressed.
It was something that I had to do no matter what.
- You must've been upset. - That's mean.
- You lost weight for nothing. - That's mean.
Weren't you angry? She didn't even compliment you.
- You're getting angry. You're getting angry. - Aren't you angry?
I really want to get angry too.
He's so easy-going.
- He's an angel. - What a nice guy.
Although you don't get angry, you might have complaints.
You can have a talk with her about your complaints.
Don't you mention anything?
No, I don't.
Do you want him to be like Gong Yoo?
- His body? - I don't want him to change like Gong Yoo.
When we were dating,
I didn't care about his appearance. He had a great personality.
I liked his positive attitude.
But as our relationship started to get more serious,
- You started looking at his appearance? - I wanted to be with him more.
I was worried that he might stand out too much in Korea.
I started to change my mind.
How much more weight does he have to lose?
I hope he loses 10kg more...
- Oh my gosh. - and works out more.
- Lose 10kg more and work out? - Yes.
Is he a cyborg or something?
- She's trying to ruin her husband. - That's too much.
I lost weight until I was 59kg once.
I fainted two times.
It was the most toughest time in my life.
- Losing weight is so difficult. - It's really hard.
- I know. - I think he already tried really hard.
Right, he really loves her.
Is there anything you do for him?
I don't think so. He doesn't want me to change anything.
- You don't have anything? - Really?
- Just say anything. - You have to speak now.
Isn't there anything you want to change?
- Yes. - Just say anything.
Anything that you want her to understand and change for you.
When I'm tired, I want to play mobile games,
take a nap, or watch TV.
"Get up! Get up and do something."
She doesn't like it when I'm doing nothing.
- I wish he can do something more productive. - During his free time?
- Yes. - More productive?
- Like what? - Like what?
My husband likes soccer. He's a big supporter of a certain team.
I hope he can go out and meet people while he's playing soccer...
- and exercise at the same time. - Wait.
If you want him to behave like you want when he's resting,
- you're taking away his freedom. - That's not resting.
Making him do something he doesn't want to do isn't enjoyable at all.
He can meet people...
and do something more productive.
He has to meet his friends once a week...
or twice a month. He has to plan ahead.
- Twice every month? - He can save more time.
When you were talking right now,
- you were talking according to your standards. - Right.
You're trying to change your husband too much.
That might be true. But I have a different opinion.
Many Korean people expect something...
from foreigners who are fluent in Korean.
If they're fluent in Korean, they forget that they're foreigners.
They want them to accept and understand Korean culture more.
That sounds kind of right.
I didn't know how to speak Korean when I first came here.
Many people understood this.
Because you weren't familiar.
They start treating me more like a Korean person.
If there's something that I can't adjust to,
it's easy for me to be scammed or tricked into doing something.
I think this is why she's worried.
That's right. He's good at Korean although he hasn't been here that long.
But his behavior or habits...
are not acceptable for the Korean society yet.
When I heard you talk, it feels like...
you were more happy when you lived in Brazil.
No one will scold you if you don't clean your house...
and you can behave more slowly.
Do you want to go back to Brazil?
- No. - Why?
When we lived in Brazil,
my wife had a hard time adjusting.
I kept thinking about this for two years.
My wife could live more comfortably and happily in Korea.
He's such an angel.
That's why I decided to live in Korea.
(He decided to stay in Korea for his wife.)
- Where do you find a man like this? - He's such an angel. What do you do now?
He's sacrificing everything for your happiness.
Can't you wait for him a bit?
I always say this. Will you change if I wait?
- But, I've waited for two years. - Yes.
- Nothing changed. - He lost weight, though.
This is just to live.
He gained weight after getting married.
(Do you want some kind of magic?)
You've lived in Brazil for two years.
Did you quickly adjust to Brazil's culture?
No. A culture change was difficult to adjust for me as well.
It's the same for your husband.
- It's tough for a quick person to go slowly. - It's frustrating.
What was difficult to adjust?
We would agree to meet at seven.
Then, people start leaving at seven.
They'll arrive at 8 or 9pm.
Sometimes,
people won't come without notice.
Without notice? But, they don't...
- mind that or get mad? - If I wonder why they don't come,
he tells me to just relax.
They'll eventually come.
Is there anything else that frustrates you?
When I go to the market,
cashiers here are very skilled.
They wait for the receipt before it prints,
and hand it over right after it's done.
In Brazil, the cashier will register one bar code and then start talking.
- Really? - Yes.
- I would get so mad. - I would...
get frustrated and fidget.
The cashier will register another one and keep asking.
- They'll laugh. - Amazing.
It was really frustrating to buy things.
When you were frustrated, did your husband...
ask you to adjust quickly like you?
My husband and his family...
really helped me out while I was adjusting to their culture.
They didn't hurry me or ask why I can't adjust yet.
Then, why do you do it?
They don't do that in their culture.
They don't get mad about being late.
Of course they wouldn't scold her about adjusting to their culture.
They're always leisurely and slow.
How about your first kiss?
I'm curious.
(A question that heightens the national status)
Hurry up with the kiss!
Hurry up! Do it here!
(High speed affection)
That looks scary. How was it?
Was that kind of fast or was that slow as well?
Brazilians are faster than Koreans in that department.
(Affection shows in LTE speed.)
So cool!
(Brazil isn't only skilled in soccer.)
What was most tough for you while living in Korea?
- Did you think of your parents? - Yes, my parents aren't here.
When I was in Brazil, I would play poker and drink...
with my friends at home for 10 years.
My wife didn't really like it.
I stopped that as well.
- He did everything his wife told him not to do. - Then,
- are you not working now? - He's going to school to get ready for work.
- I'm getting ready. - Then, who pays the bills?
I saved up while I was in Brazil,
so I'm using that right now.
Does your wife work?
She's working.
That's why I wanted...
- to do really well. - And clean?
I wanted to clean the dog's poo and throw out the garbage.
- The dog must poo a lot. - Is there an occupation that your wife wants?
What my wife likes the most is a recognized job.
(A job is more important!)
What about an example?
Like a global corporation,
or a company name that people recognize.
She likes something that can be recognized by anyone.
Then, what do you really want to do?
I like doing creative work,
like commercials and advertisement marketing.
You like that stuff.
I wish I could do that kind of job.
Is he right about you?
I'm not pushing for a major company.
My husband is not Korean,
so I think he won't be able to adjust to Korea's company culture.
That's what I meant but I think he misunderstood a bit.
In order to do that, your husband needs to adjust to Korean culture more.
I think he's getting ready since having a job here would be better.
But she's grilling him so much.
Companies that hire foreigners don't require perfect Korean.
- That's right. - In my opinion, my husband is capable of having a conversation.
He's studying a lot so if he gets a job and talks to other people,
I thought he would get better at Korean more efficiently.
So you want him to go in head first.
According to everything, he's really an angel.
He's an angel that does everything for his wife.
So, you've listened to his side of the story.
What do you think?
I think I never considered how my husband felt.
After listening to his side of the story through other people,
I did think that maybe I'm too stingy to praise him.
Did I push my husband too much? I thought about that.
Is there any praise you want to hear from your wife?
- I have one. - What is it?
When I'm having a tough time, I wish my wife would say good job.
You did well.
- Good work. - Just that one?
That one phrase is so helpful.
Also, my wife would say I'm cute sometimes.
Cute is fine,
but I want to hear that I'm cool.
I really want to hear that. I want to be a cool guy.
(I'm a cool guy!)
(Oh dear)
Tell him that he's cool.
What do you think about him is cool?
I don't say this and I only think of this, but...
- I always think you're handsome and cool. - You have to tell him!
I think you're really cool when you lost 20kg without giving up.
He's a really cool guy since he can express how much he loves...
his wife in front of 200 people.
That's right.
He's totally awesome since he moved countries for his wife.
He's cool.
This is it. You both knows that he's cool.
But, you didn't express it. Thank you, good job, you're cool.
If you don't say these and only order him to work,
that's tiring.
Praising him and comforting him might...
get you what you want faster.
When you first met, you loved him for who he is.
Now that you live together,
you don't like that he doesn't meet your expectations.
If you love him as the man who he was,
he would think he's cool and doing well. He actually is doing well.
If I had a husband like that, I'd do all the work and let him stay home.
- I'll just think of him as a palm tree. - Palm tree?
He's like a palm tree in my heart. I want to rest under his shadow.
I'd feel that this is what life is about.
Now, tell your wife if you have anything else to say.
Honey. I'm really working hard,
- He's so kind. - and I'll stop making mistakes.
I really want to live with you together until the end.
Honey, I love you.
(Honey, I love you.)
- He's so cute. - That's the person he is.
(Please be happy together.)
Korean women are all going to Brazil to get married now.
- They'll think everyone is like this. - Where can I find a man like this?
- Go to Brazil! - I'm so jealous.
Let's start with Kang Nam's opinion.
I think this isn't an issue.
I think he's really cool.
His thought about love is amazing.
I think it's not an issue, too.
The wife...
really hit a jackpot.
- Jackpot? - Yes.
(She hit a jackpot.)
I'm so jealous. Where can I find a man like this?
I think they came all this way because they get a long well.
Please be happy.
I think this is an issue.
I think it's an issue.
If you have a complaint, talk to each other.
I think you will get along even better later.
It's not always right to endure and hold back.
That's right.
(Don't hold back too much, Bernardo!)
You've heard their story. Press the button!
(What does the audience think?)
Five, four,
three, two, one.
Done.
Please say anything you wish to your husband.
You must've had a lot to think about.
Please work harder a bit from now on.
She's so Korean.
That's what she says?
- In the end, he takes nothing back in the end. - I won't be stingy on praises.
Thank you for loving me so much all the time.
I love you, too.
- That's good. - Say that again. He's so happy.
Say it again. Be more loving.
Honey, I love you.
(Does that make you so happy?)
Please show the result for "I'm Scared Of My Wife."
(The result)
What is the result?
(Is it the power of love? They have over 100 votes!)
What is it? 124 votes?
(The result?)
(The result)
(This issue received 124 votes.)
This is an English title.
No! No! Never!
In Korean, this is no, no, never.
Hello. I'm Alex,
an American who has lived in Korea for seven years now.
I'm a man but people think I'm a girl.
He's a man?
(People mistake him for a woman?)
This happened in high school.
I want to play football.
- Let's play together. - Oh no.
Go away, you're like a girl.
This is a sport for men.
That's what happened.
I've never tried a manly sport.
When I go to an interview for work,
people ask if I'm really a man.
You're so feminine.
Is this interviewer from Jeolla Province?
I know.
(Embarrassed)
We need someone who is manly.
I didn't pass the interview in the end.
My friend who is a girl told me this.
Do you like men?
That friend thought...
I was gay for six months.
I'm just a bit clean,
and a bit pale with makeup.
He does makeup?
It must be his hobby.
But, I'm not a girl.
I'm a man.
Please accept me as I am.
Robin, how do you feel after hearing this?
You have very deep eyes.
I think you hear that you're pretty more than you're handsome.
Have you ever been mistaken?
I sympathize to this story.
Especially when I was in France, I was very skinny.
I weighed about 10kg less than now.
(Robin was 10kg lighter.)
I weighed about 50kg. A lot of men misunderstood me.
They would ask if I was gay.
Did Hong Seok-cheon harass you in Korea?
He did, a lot.
He did it a lot?
(I knew it!)
Seok-cheon is...
He's dangerous.
(Hong Seok-cheon alarm)
He's 100 percent sincere!
He's dangerous.
He's a dangerous person.
Did you hate or enjoy that misunderstanding?
- I didn't like it. - Is that why you gained weight?
Yes. I worked out and went to the gym. I really gained a lot of weight.
Let's introduce Alex who is misunderstood because of his white skin.
Let's bring out our guest.
(Who is our guest who is misunderstood and made fun of?)
He's really a guy.
(Alex)
Hello.
- Hello. - Is it because of his makeup?
It must be the makeup.
Hello, Alex.
Stay comfortable.
(That hurts.)
Are you uncomfortable sitting crossed legged?
Be comfortable.
I can't sit like that but I practiced.
Try it.
You can sit comfortably.
(Uncomfortable)
We're uncomfortable.
Is this comfortable for you?
I normally sit like this.
When I eat at restaurants, I have to sit like this.
- People would make fun of me. - We won't make fun of you.
- Don't make fun of you. - I'm okay.
- Be comfortable. - I'll sit like you.
Let's try this together.
(Everyone sits sideways for the new year.)
(That looks more uncomfortable!)
Sit comfortably.
Let's sit however we want to.
People usually feel uncomfortable next to me.
In my opinion,
- you don't seem that feminine. - That's true.
You have really long eyelashes.
Your eyelashes are completely curled.
- They seem so light. - I feel like they will fly away.
When I do something or show an expression,
I hear that I look feminine a lot.
I don't really get it.
I don't understand.
What do your friends tell you when they think you're feminine?
I use makeup and I also have an earring.
- That's normal. - I pluck my brows.
(I pluck my brows.)
He shapes his brows.
- This is shaped. - They're very neat.
I plucked my brows since I was in college.
It's a habit now.
- I always pluck here. - It's different in the U.S.
If you see male actors, they have a lot of beards.
They're very rough looking.
When a man is very neat and clean,
- they can be misunderstood. - So it's not unusual?
(It's enough to be misunderstood.)
If you use makeup, you can be misunderstood right away.
If a man uses makeup, people misunderstand.
- Even in France? - Yes.
- I also shave my chest and this place. - Armpit?
I shave my armpit.
What about your arm?
(Hairy)
Mosquitoes can't escape you, right?
I tried shaving my arm before.
I thought it would make me look too feminine.
So I don't shave my legs either.
When I go to a dry sauna,
a lot of people stare at me.
Why?
Because he doesn’t have hair.
I don't have hair on other places, too.
Do you shave down there?
(What did I just say?)
Let's listen to his story first.
Where do you shave exactly?
Where is it?
I mean, people stare at him in the bath.
- He shaves down there? - That would be weird.
It would look like he's wearing arm warmers while naked.
(Wearing arm warmers while naked?)
- Isn't it better to just shave everything? - Right.
It's like wearing arm warmers and boots while naked!
(Calling for attention!)
- Why did you shave? - I felt that it was dirty.
I wanted to be clean and I like that.
Tell us about how uncomfortable...
you were when people make fun of you for being feminine.
I think this started since high school.
Back then, I liked football.
I joined the football team but I was never able to play a game.
Back then, I wasn't very strong so friends made fun of me.
What did they say?
You play ball like a girl.
I heard that often.
I heard that a lot.
So in sports, did they not let you play because you were bad?
For example, do you...
run like this?
No, no.
You need muscle...
to be considered manly.
- Back then, I wasn't muscular. - You didn't have muscle?
- He must've been skinny. - I was small.
I came to Korea right after I graduated.
Then, I went to some interviews.
Sometimes, the interview told me...
that they needed a masculine leader.
So I wasn't accepted a lot of times.
- You're here with your colleagues, right? - Yes.
Where are your friends?
Friends?
- They're over there. - Hello.
- Hello. - We don't really get it.
Do you understand his issue?
I grew up overseas as well.
When I use BB cream, a lot of American friends would misunderstand.
In the U.S., men are done after washing their face.
When I first met him, I did think he might be gay.
Is there anything else than makeup?
We usually talk in English.
- Sometimes, he would use feminine phrases. - Can you give us an example?
Oh my goodness!
He would say this.
Oh my goodness.
(He feels more feminine in English.)
I see.
Does he say it like this? What does he do?
How about you and Benji talk in English?
The topic is what you like about being in Korea.
- Just talk as you normally would in English. - So...
- we're like friends? - What's up, man.
Hey, baby. How are you doing?
Baby?
What did you eat yesterday? What did you do?
Man, I had rice wine.
Rice wine time? Did you turn up?
Turn up?
No man, it was fun.
- It was fun? - It was fun. You should come.
(I see what it is!)
I get it!
He has something.
Even we can tell how feminine he is.
(She isn't asking for a fight.)
He has this expression.
- You saw it too, right? - When?
When you look at him,
what do you feel?
- What do you think? - His stare...
is a bit like a woman trying to seduce men.
Let me describe it exactly.
When people talk, they usually lean forward.
- That's right. - But, he has a bit of a feminine posture.
He leans back,
and lowers his chin.
(Glancing)
He does this.
He has that kind of posture and pronunciation.
So he's talking femininely?
- He is. - Is this what you felt as his friend?
He does that a lot.
He makes a lot of jokes like that.
People would misunderstand him,
and even think of me as the same.
They put them together.
Is his taste feminine?
He favors male celebrities more than female celebrities.
He likes romantic comedy when watching movies and dramas.
What about when he eats at restaurants?
I think he eats in a pretty way, too. He crosses his legs when drinking coffee.
- Does he raise his pinky? - Yes.
He does this.
These small details surprise people.
Do you calculate calories when you eat?
Of course.
- Women usually do that. - Right.
Do you calculate your calories?
Of course.
(Innocent)
Why do you calculate calories? Is it because of your workout,
- or do you just do it? - I do workout, so I watch what I eat.
I want to have pretty muscles.
(Oh dear)
Men usually say handsome muscles.
Alex says pretty muscles.
Also I have belly fat.
He also acts cute a lot.
He texts "love you" or "good night" a lot.
- He does that? - Yes.
Good night.
Do you act cute even in Korean?
Of course.
- He just said it. - He did it just now.
He did it!
Isn't there a song?
- There's a "Cute Song." - Try it.
"One plus one is cute"
"Two plus two is cute"
"Three plus three is cute"
(Embarrassed)
"Four plus four..."
Alex is cuter than this girl!
I got embarrassed while doing it.
"Five plus five is cute"
(Aren't I cute?)
"Six plus six is..."
(Kissing)
(I'm the cutest!)
I lose.
If you act cute like that, how do others react?
They tell me to stop.
If you keep doing that, you'll be easily going out with men.
Going out with men?
I should learn from him.
It's not easy to find men acting cute like that in the U.S., right?
Acting like that will make others misunderstand right away.
How do you feel after watching his song?
I couldn't watch.
- Is it that much? - How about Robin?
It was embarrassing. I wanted to hit him.
(I want to hit him!)
It seems like foreigners can't stand this kind of cute acting.
I thought other cultures would just accept this.
It was cute and nice to watch.
I heard people misunderstood you as gay.
- Do you hear that a lot? - Yes, I heard that often.
- Even on the streets? - Yes.
One time, I was at my parents house when I was a college student.
My friends came over and my dad came in.
He asked my friends. Alex never brought a girlfriend home.
Does he...
maybe like men?
He asked your close friend?
Even your dad misunderstood.
(Even his family misunderstood him.)
He asked that to my close friend, so I was really embarrassed.
When you came to Korea, did other gay people...
approach you first?
A lot of people asked me. Alex, are you the same?
Are you the same?
I've never talked about this to others.
I was at a club in Hongdae.
I was with a friend then I was going home.
When I got out, a guy started following me.
He grabbed me,
and pushed me into an alleyway.
- He pushed you? - Yes. He was a foreigner.
He touched me in weird places.
It was...
- a bit... - That must've been dangerous.
Honestly, it was very humiliating.
Is this your first time talking about this incident?
- Yes. - It's good that you came here.
Tell everyone here and be clear. No, no, never!
If you say that, people will stop misunderstanding you.
It's good that you came here. Then,
- do you have a female friend here? - Yes.
Let's meet your female friend.
Hello, friend.
Hello.
Do you feel that Alex likes women?
He really likes women.
- He does? - Yes.
How is he?
He likes women but the problem is...
that his charm doesn't appeal to women.
He's too feminine.
- So, he becomes friends with them? - Yes.
Women kind of like...
a man to be masculine.
But, Alex is always too nice.
He's very gentle, so his charm isn't very appealing.
Women don't feel his manly charm?
You said Alex...
really likes women. How do you know?
Does Alex turn back if a pretty woman passes by?
He always wants to find a pretty Korean girlfriend.
So he's unable to find a girlfriend?
That seems to be so.
But, I've dated a lot.
- Did they not last? - I've dated for short periods.
- I've dated for about a month or two. - Why?
- That's when you're supposed to get passionate. - Since I'm feminine,
they feel that I can't protect them as a man.
I guess that's how women feel.
Then what's the longest period you've dated for?
- About two years. - Two years?
It's been two years.
- That was long. - She was Korean.
She met me because she liked feminine men.
That's what she told me.
She likes that style so she went out with you?
She must like pretty men.
When you date a girlfriend, do you ask before showing affection?
Do you ask if you can kiss her?
Well, I... How do I describe it in Korean?
For example, we're going out.
And, you want to kiss the girl.
You want to kiss her.
We're going out?
Yes, we're going out.
Don't be so surprised!
(Confused)
Did we go out?
- Do you ask your girlfriend before you kiss? - No.
Then, what do you do?
Show us.
You just do it suddenly?
- Do you do it while talking? - Just act.
It's okay.
(Nervous)
(Be more manly!)
Don't do that!
Oh dear.
I almost got into...
a relationship just now.
I think I just lost right now.
When dating, what do women feel is feminine about you?
What's feminine?
What did women say?
- I heard that I cry. - You tear up a lot?
When my girlfriend cries...
Do you cry with her?
- Yes. - Really?
When the person I love is sad,
- I feel the same. - He's very sympathetic.
But, that woman told me to stop.
(Stop crying!)
She told me to stop.
He cried too much!
He must have bawled.
She told me to stop. Boys don't cry.
- That's what she said. - She said men don't do that.
Then, what did you do...
to try and change?
I work out a lot.
Work out.
In Korea, I tried football again.
I tried it thinking that I can do it.
It was okay.
Also, men drink a lot of alcohol.
- Even though you're not good at drinking, you drank more to seem manly? - Yes.
- That's how you tried? - Yes.
Did that have any effect?
Well, it worked a little bit. But, when I'm drunk I get more feminine.
(He's a feminine drunk!)
He starts over reacting.
Normally, I'm like this.
When I get drunk, I do this.
(Direct touching)
Don't touch like that! Work out more.
He's making that pose.
(That scared me.)
Alex is surprised.
When you hear that a lot since you were young,
I think you might have a trauma.
You're scared to seem like a women or seem feminine.
What kind of person do you think you are?
I just think of myself as Alex.
Some parts of me are masculine,
and some parts of me are feminine. When mixed together,
I think that's what makes me unique.
If all men are simply masculine, I think that's boring.
Men can be a bit feminine.
There has to be some feminine parts. Also, I'm positive.
I'm a very positive person.
Since we're here, please tell us...
about Alex's positive charm.
When he's having a tough time, he'll go on a trip to the sea and stuff.
He takes time to relax on his own.
He works very hard to achieve his goal.
As a friend and as a person,
I think he's very admirable.
- What about the friend next to you? - Alex is very modest and smart.
I hope he will stay and live as Alex,
doing what he wants to do without caring about what other people think.
He has a very good educational background,
so he's considered an elite in the U.S.
But, he came all the way to Korea to challenge himself.
I always thought that he was very cool as a friend,
since he boldly came to a foreign country.
I hope he doesn't have to worry about these things,
and find a good girlfriend to fall in love with.
Now, this program is broadcast to the whole nation. Tell the viewers anything...
you want to say.
I think problems with stereotypes...
need to be resolved.
I wanted to do gymnastics when I was young,
- but I didn't do it. - Why?
(He didn't do it because of stereotypes.)
- It's considered feminine. - But, I started now.
Because, I wanted to live without regrets.
Actually, I don't want to change who I am.
I don't want to hear that I have to change myself...
- from now on. - You want to live your own life.
Yes. I see.
Everyone, prepare your buttons.
- Let's start with Cao Lu. - Everyone has their own style.
I don't think you need to care about other people's opinions too much.
You thought well.
I think this isn't an issue as well.
I have a male friend...
who acts like this too.
But, he meets a lot of women.
He meets a lot of women while talking like this.
I think if you go strong and free,
you can live your own life.
I don't think this is an issue.
I think it's not an issue as well.
Actually, I think your feminine side can help when meeting women.
You can approach women more and understand them more.
- That's right. - Then, at a critical moment...
- be manly and cool. - Right!
- Show how cool you are. - Be sudden.
(His flaws can become his strengths.)
- You can do it. - That's true.
Although we laughed while listening to his story,
you might've thought that Alex suffered a lot by himself.
If so, press the button!
(What does the audience think?)
Five, four,
three, two, one.
Voting ends.
Let's see how many voted for him.
"No! No! Never!"
- How many votes? - Seven.
Seven.
- 67 votes. - It's not an issue.
(This issue received 67 votes.)
- Alex, you're perfect the way you are. - Right.
You're great. Right?
- Thank you. - Give him an applause.
(We'll root for you!)
"Why Are You Doing This To Me?"
Hello. I've been living in Korea for 15 years.
My name is Gambhir and I'm from Nepal.
I want to tell you about my wicked boss.
My boss always checks my phone records.
- When I receive a text message, she looks first. - Why?
She checks my social network account and opens my email.
Why?
- She even checks my bank account. - What?
He needs a lawyer.
My boss is...
my wife.
That's why he can't do anything.
- He can't sue his wife. - When I go to work,
my wife watches me through a CCTV.
- It's that worse? - A CCTV?
Does she love him so much?
"Did you just flirt with a female customer?"
"You went out from 10:10pm to 10:30pm."
"Where were you? Who were you with? What did you do?"
I can't stand it.
My friends also hate my wife.
- His friends? - It's because...
when I'm out drinking with my friends,
- my wife suddenly appears like Grim Reaper. - The Grim Reaper.
- That's scary. - My wife's obsession with me is suffocating.
Help me. Save me please.
That sounds so tough.
- Kang Nam, it's been a while since you came to Korea. - Yes.
Did you ever date a Korean woman?
- Yes, a lot. - A lot?
- Really? - I was kind of like that.
- You? - You were obsessed.
I was so obsessed. I checked her phone often.
I was afraid she'd cheat on me.
Why would she cheat on you? Aren't you confident?
No.
He's so honest.
There might be something we don't know.
- I understand. - Something we don't know.
- It's all right. - I wasn't talking about that kind of confidence.
Okay.
(It's all right.)
I'm blushing. It's not about that.
(We'll root for you!)
Robin, were you popular when you first came to Korea?
- He looks like an actor. - I was popular.
Did you date an idol singer?
(Did he date an idol singer?)
(Surprised)
Is it true?
- Oh my gosh. - Robin dated an idol singer.
- It's true. - I'm scared of this program.
(Running away)
Wait a minute.
I really like foreigners because they're honest.
Kang Nam just guessed, and he couldn't deny it.
(Bad at lying)
He's not like Korean people.
Our guest is suffering because his wife is watching him for 24 hours.
Come out please.
(Let's meet our guest who's being watched by his wife every day.)
(Gambhir)
- I thought he was Park Chan-ho from his beard. - He's handsome.
- Hello. - He's Park Chan-ho from Nepal.
Hello.
Oh my goodness.
He sounds just like a Korean.
Please introduce yourself.
Hello, I'm from Nepal.
He's fluent in Korean.
- I've been here 15 years. - 15 years?
It's been six years since I got married in Korea.
We just read your story. How bad is it?
She checks my social network account, my phone,
my text messages, and even my bank account.
Not only that, she also watches me with a CCTV.
(Watching his every move!)
She checks where I go 24 hours a day.
I have to stay at my restaurant until midnight.
Many people call me at midnight. She receives the phone instead.
She tells them not to call a married man at midnight.
- Really? - She hangs up?
- It's that bad? - Does she sit in front of the CCTV for 24 hours?
Like this?
- Did you ever cheat on her? - No.
When I was studying, I was the president for a "Foreigners Who Love Korean" club.
- "Foreigners Who Love Korean"? - I have many foreign friends.
I work at a restaurant.
In order to make more customers,
I can't just go home after hanging out with my friends.
I have to go for a second round of drinks.
As soon as I go out, she calls me. "Where are you going?"
She always calls me.
It's so hard to maintain a relationship with my friends right now.
Maintaining a relationship?
- It is hard. - That sounds true.
That's right.
Doesn't your wife work with you?
You called her your boss.
She's just a housewife.
- She stays at home? - Yes.
She makes me work.
(The real boss at home)
Let's talk with your wife. Hello.
- Hello. - Are you okay?
- Are you all right? - Hello.
I was so surprised.
I almost cried. Hello.
Hello.
(She's cute.)
Do you know why your husband...
sent us his story? Do you agree with him?
I don't understand.
Isn't it normal?
- Why did he get married then? - Couples don't watch each other like you.
Do you think other wives are also like you?
I don't think there should be any secrets between a married couple.
I don't keep any secrets from him.
Did he ever do anything that made you suspicious?
Yes. Two years ago, my husband...
came home at six in the morning.
What time does he usually come back?
- He closes the restaurant at 2am. - He should be home by at least 3am.
Right.
- Right, that's normal. - Yes.
Right?
She's mad.
I asked him who he was with, and he said he was with a friend.
But I had a bad feeling. Women have a hunch about these things.
I had to go to work the next day.
I checked the CCTV.
He was with a woman inside the restaurant.
- That's why I got angry. - He lied.
Yes, he lied.
- It's your fault. - That's when I installed a CCTV application on my phone.
- I didn't install it before. - I can explain what happened.
- I have a close female friend. - A friend.
I set her up on a date with someone else.
- You introduced someone. - Yes.
I introduced them and they dated for a long time.
But they had a fight and came to my restaurant to eat.
But they fought again and the guy left.
He left and my female friend was left alone.
We started talking and it took longer than expected.
If she re-winded the CCTV to five minutes earlier,
she would've seen what actually happened.
- The fight? - She didn't see properly.
You were also with her boyfriend.
She didn't see him there with me.
- But why did you lie? - Why?
When she called me,
if I told her that I was with a female friend,
- she would've gotten so suspicious. - Right.
She might've come running to the restaurant.
- You told a white lie. - Yes.
She was like this when we were dating.
I told her I was playing billiards with my friends.
She came to the billiard room.
Maybe she wanted to play billiards.
That's possible.
That might be true.
- She came and ruined the mood for everyone. - Why?
I told her not to come since I was with my friends.
But she kept calling and I didn't answer the phone.
She came to the billiard room and my friends were nervous.
- They were scared. - They were uncomfortable.
She made them uncomfortable.
We fought and didn't see each other for a month.
- She was suspicious of me all the time. - What's wrong with playing billiards?
- You were just dating. - He didn't pick up his phone.
You got suspicious.
Do you get angry if he doesn't answer?
Yes. I hope he always answers the phone.
When men play games, they concentrate. They don't think about their phones.
- Right. - We can't help it. We concentrate too much. Okay?
(Kang Nam, nice!)
But don't you have to go to the bathroom during a game?
- Don't you look at your phone? - No.
We never go to the bathroom. We must win.
We never go to the bathroom.
As a woman, it's frustrating when a guy doesn't answer his phone.
We already said that we were playing billiards!
We always say that we're playing a game of billiards.
Then you should call as soon as the game ends.
- But women don't wait. - They keep calling.
(Why are you guys fighting?)
I kept listening to what he said and I think...
he enjoys hanging out with his friends.
- He likes to meet his friends. - Was there another incident?
- Is there anything else? - He likes to drink often.
He drinks almost 365 days a year.
- He might make a mistake if he's drunk. - Right.
I call him often to prevent that from happening.
Do you drink every day?
I do like to drink.
- Drinking? - I enjoy drinking. I started...
drinking since I was five.
- What? - What?
Since five?
5? Don't you mean 15?
Just five years old? That's when you eat baby food.
When I was young,
whenever we bothered our parents,
they made us drink alcohol with a 70 percent alcohol dosage.
That made us dizzy and we fell asleep.
70 percent?
Whenever I drink, I drink 4 bottles of soju and 10,000cc of beer.
I never get drunk.
- 4 bottles of soju? - 10,000cc of beer?
- 10,000cc of beer? - I'm all right.
- Can you drink all that? - He's a heavy drinker.
My wife also saw me drinking.
I've never been drunk or made any mistakes.
You're such a good drinker.
He never made a mistake...
or was in a big accident because of his drinking habit.
Why are you trying to prevent it?
He sounds better than us.
My husband likes to go out so much.
- He goes to a club three times a week. - Oh my gosh.
- Really? - Before we got married,
he went five times a week.
- What? - Five times a week.
- Before you got married? - When we were dating.
That sounds strange.
He enjoys going to the club.
- What kind of wife... - That's too much.
- send his husband to a club? - That's true.
- That's right. - I think I should be sitting there right now.
- When does he go clubbing? After work? - Yes.
- After 2am? - How can you go three times a week?
- I agree with his wife now. - I know.
I don't go three times a week.
I sometimes go Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays.
- Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays? - That's three times.
There are more people during the weekends.
There's a reason why I go then.
I opened a club in Nepal as soon as I graduated from high school.
- You mean you operated a club? - That's so early.
- In Nepal? - Yes, I opened a club.
- So she needs to understand? - Before we got married,
I took her clubbing with me and showed her how I lived.
I showed her how I spent my time.
I play darts and pocket ball.
I enjoy drinking and hanging out with my friends.
I understand him. In foreign countries,
people don't go clubbing just to hook up with girls.
- They just enjoy listening to music. - We have to point this out.
- Clubs in Korea are different. - Right.
People enjoy drinking...
and rubbing up against someone they like.
What?
- Rubbing. - Rubbing?
Rubbing.
- Rubbing. - I know.
That's so funny.
Old people call it a "crub" instead of club.
(Dong-yeob, you're the same age as me!)
- Why don't you just call it a crob? - Shut your mouth!
- We know what you mean. - We mostly think of a crub as...
- Crub? - Club!
We think of it as a place for men and women to hook up. Don't you agree?
- I have never gone to a club... - Never?
with the purpose of hooking up with a woman.
I usually go with more than 10 of my close friends.
- Really? - When I go to clubs in Hongdae,
all the owners are my friends.
We all know each other.
They also get off work and come to my restaurant.
Some friends wait for me until I get off work.
- They want to go clubbing with me. - I see.
- After work? - Yes.
Doesn't she follow you when you go clubbing?
She sometimes comes to the club when I don't answer the phone.
Ta-da!
- Surprise! - Surprise!
I was so furious one time.
I kept calling him but he didn't answer.
I called him 20 times.
Suddenly he received his phone.
I heard voices of several men and women.
- It was so noisy. - Party people!
Turn up!
Party people!
I hung up and called him again.
He answered again but didn't say anything.
He repeated this for about three times.
I was so furious. It would've been better if he didn't answer.
But he answered and didn't say anything.
I got dressed and grabbed a taxi to find him in Hongdae.
- Did you find him? - She went.
- There are so many clubs. - He finally answered his phone again.
I told him to wait and went to the club.
He was drinking beer with his friends and listening to music.
- Did he welcome you? - He didn't say that.
- No? - He was more angrier than me.
"Why did you come here? Are you crazy?"
- That's mean. - He got angry.
We went out and had a fight. He went home first.
But I really didn't want to go home with him.
- I was so angry. - Did you go in the club?
- What? - Did you get a table?
Did you sit in a table?
- Party people! - I went to a cafe and went in after I calmed myself down.
Why didn't you say anything on the phone?
I was with several of my friends, and I think the button got pressed in my pocket.
You received it by accident.
You didn't know.
My wife thought I wasn't talking to her on purpose.
She did that three times.
From the way he talks, I think he's a warm person.
He seems like a nice husband.
No, he's not. He's cold-hearted.
- He's cold-hearted? - Yes.
- The way he talks. - Does he speak harshly when you fight?
Yes. When we had trouble having a baby,
- he told me it wasn't his fault. - That's a sensitive issue.
Don't you think that was too harsh?
I admit that I made a mistake.
But she's obsessed with me and watches me too much.
I received way more stress than her.
That might've been the cause.
- Yes. - You were angry...
- and frustrated. - I thought that was the problem.
I told her that it was her fault.
I see.
I heard that her sister came here with her today.
Let's talk with her sister.
What do you think? Did you see them fighting?
Yes, I saw them often.
In my opinion, both of them are the same.
They make everyone around them nervous.
They might fight with their fists.
Is it that bad?
Really?
- Do they swear at each other? - They hurt each other's feelings?
Both of them talk very harshly when they fight.
- Give us an example. - How do they talk?
(I can't make myself imitate them!)
What do they usually fight about?
- Gambhir doesn't eat much. - Really?
He's a light eater.
When he eats only half of his meal, my sister...
takes a spoon and makes him grab it.
- She tells him to eat. - She forces him to eat.
She doesn't like it when he leaves leftovers.
"Hey! You always go out and enjoy drinking."
"Why don't you like eating?" She talks like this.
Gambhir says that she's crazy and they swear at each other.
I can imagine it.
- We learn how to swear first when we study another language. - Yes.
- That's right. - When did you start learning how to swear?
Since 1994, my family...
used to own a Korean guest house and restaurant in Nepal.
- You learned it in 1994. - Yes.
Back then, many mountain climbers came as customers.
- Right. - Many people go hiking to Nepal.
I spent a lot of time around them.
I heard someone say, "What a big skull."
Skull?
I thought they were complimenting me.
What does that mean?
- It means you're smart. - When I went to language school,
I called my teacher and said, "My skull hurts too much and I can't go."
That's what you learned.
- That can happen. - Right.
- I'm sorry. - Any married couple...
can fight but they don't swear at each other like that.
- Right. - Normal couples don't fight like that.
- That's right. - My wife...
loses her temper easily.
- Is she hot-tempered? - Yes.
She gets angry easily.
I tell her to wait 10 minutes to calm her down.
- I turn on the TV but she throws away the remote. - She throws it.
- She has to take care of it right away. - Some people are like that.
- Some people need to talk right away. - When I go to another room,
- she breaks down the door. - Does she pound on the door?
She breaks down the door?
She has to talk right away.
- That sounds bad. - Were you an athlete?
You have to receive anger management.
When I'm angry, I want to take care of it as soon as possible.
I want to talk. Gambhir told me he wanted to talk the next day.
I waited for him.
But he kept avoiding me the next day.
He kept running away when I tried to talk.
We didn't talk for three weeks once.
He really enjoyed it and kept coming home late.
Aren't most men like that?
When they fight.
- They try to avoid it. - The fight might turn worse.
Did you avoid her for three weeks because you wanted more free time?
- On purpose? - I was more comfortable for three weeks.
Did you fight with her on purpose?
It wasn't on purpose.
But you felt more comfortable.
What's the motorcycle incident about?
We went to city hall to get some documents.
We received the documents and I found a mistake.
I complained to her about the Korean administrative procedure.
She suddenly started hitting me on the back of my helmet.
Why?
You shouldn't hit someone who's driving a vehicle.
- It's very dangerous. - Yes.
You have a hot temper. You hit him on the back of his head?
While he was driving?
You don't look like that at all.
When you were on a motorcycle?
She kept hitting from me from behind and I hit her with my elbow.
A lens from her sunglasses fell off.
Her goggles?
This is so fun.
Like her sister mentioned, you guys are really the same.
Can you hit someone when they're driving?
His friend has come here today.
Let's hear what he has to say. Hello.
Hello.
- Do you understand him? - I understand him 100 percent.
- It's too much? - Yes.
- Does she really call him a lot? - She calls too much.
She's too obsessed with him.
He apologizes every 10 minutes and calls his wife.
He comes back after a long time.
She ruins the whole mood.
- Even his friends receive stress because of her. - What about him?
- I see. - I think she's always suspicious of him.
She thinks that he's trying to hook up with girls.
When we go clubbing, he just dances by himself like an old man.
Why do you call him every 10 minutes?
- Why do you call him? - I don't understand this.
- I probably have something to say. - Every 10 minutes?
(Shaking)
- Every 10 minutes? - Since you're here, just tell us everything honestly.
Tell us everything.
Do you just hate it when he hangs out with his friends?
That's true sometimes.
He tells me that he doesn't want to go.
- But I think he's enjoying it. - So you say, "When are your coming home?"
"I'll go in soon." "Okay."
Do you get angry again and call him back?
Sometimes it's like that.
I don't call him that often these days.
(Please give me freedom.)
Shall we talk with the people next to him?
- Hello. - Hello.
I'm from Russia.
I went to Gambhir's restaurant often and we became friends.
- Do you go clubbing with him? - Of course.
On Fridays, I want to dance so I go to his restaurant.
- Do you wait? - Yes.
As a foreign woman,
- I'm scared to go alone. - Right.
- But he's a mature person. - You can trust him.
He also knows many friends, so it's fun to hang out with him.
Did you ever meet his wife? Is this your first time?
Of course we've met.
- I saw her at the restaurant. - I see.
Yes.
Although they're just friends, they hang out with each other often.
Are you a bit worried about this?
- His wife keeps sending him text messages and calling him. - I know.
It's hard for us to enjoy ourselves.
- You're worried about her. - This is a tough situation.
I know you'll agree with me.
From a typical Korean person's point of view,
- it's strange if he goes clubbing with other female friends. - It's strange.
- It does seem kind of strange. - I can understand his wife.
I have more male friends.
- Of course. - You have more male friends.
Your wife might be happier...
if you go clubbing less often.
- Can't you go less often? - If I stop going to clubs and drinking,
what about our financial issues?
She always talks about money. I have to make money.
- You have to make money. - When I'm running my business,
sometimes I don't want to drink or go clubbing.
But this is a capitalist country.
- Capitalism? - Capitalism?
- What does that mean? - I'm from Nepal.
I have to try harder. I have to work harder than normal Koreans...
in order to maintain my business.
How does she pester you about money?
She says, "Is this all you made? Is this it?"
As you know, the economic situation is bad right now.
Sometimes I lose more money than I make.
I often get part-time jobs here and there.
I always try to give her a certain amount...
no matter how hard it is.
- That's amazing. - You have responsibility.
Has your wife ever worked before?
No, she's a housewife.
I used to work until three years ago.
The reason why I'm not working...
is because we tried to have a baby.
- Because of a baby. - But we failed.
I had to take care of my health.
I don't usually spend money carelessly.
I showed him how much I saved up for five years.
He told me that it wasn't enough.
I think he's more obsessed with money than me.
I don't agree with him.
What did you like about your husband when you married him?
Although he's a foreigner,
he had a lot of friends and he was a very sociable person.
- That's what I liked about him. - You knew that he was a sociable person.
But you don't like him going to clubs.
I still let him go.
But you come after him.
- Right. - You make him feel so uncomfortable.
You come after him and hit him on the back of his head.
You call him 20 times.
- How did you meet her? - I saw her picture on her social network account.
We started to talk and that's how we met.
We were about to go on our first date.
I keep mentioning clubs since I like it so much.
I went to sleep late and didn't receive my phone for eight hours.
I asked her out and we made plans to meet at a certain time.
She waited eight hours for me at a cafe near my house.
- Eight hours? - She was mad. She wanted to kill you.
- That might be true. - She was furious.
- "I'll kill him." - We finally met and I talked with her.
I realized how thoughtful she was.
She knew how to wait for you.
- That's nice. - She waits for you every day.
Has your feelings about her changed?
No. I still think of her that way.
I just hope she'll stop watching me and being obsessed with me.
- I wish she can stop. - You want her to trust you.
- Yes. - I don't watch the CCTV every day.
- I just watch it from time to time. - She watches every day.
Most people want to look, but we just don't.
It's too difficult if you want to know everything.
You have to understand each other's interests.
That's another way you can be more happier.
Are there any last words you want to say to each other?
I want to show my wife's friends...
that although she married a foreigner,
she's living happily just like anyone else.
Many people compare each other. Where they live and what car they drive.
I want to provide everything for her.
That's why I meet more people.
- You want her to understand. - Right.
- You hope she'll understand. - There's a famous saying in Nepal.
"If you start crossing the river, you have to go together until the end."
I want to be with her until the end. I want to say I love her. I love you.
(Let's stay together until the end!)
That's so romantic.
Is there anything you want from your husband?
I hope he thinks about my feelings. We're both young and stubborn.
Sometimes he only thinks about himself.
- You're like that also. - I know.
I hope he'll think about me a little more.
We have to be careful when we talk. I hope he'll talk to me more gently.
- Then I'll change too. - Before you want him to change, you have to change first.
Both of you have to change.
From you husband's point of view, he's a foreigner in another country.
What if he didn't have any friends and relied on you only?
Wouldn't that be so sad?
- But because of his sociability, - Right.
he came to a foreign country and adjusted very well.
Both of you have to understand each other.
You should allow him to act more freely...
and you should act more gently to your wife.
Both of you have to change your behavior.
All of us may have different opinions.
- If you think it's an issue, press the button. - Benji.
- Benji. - This situation won't improve on its own.
You have to understand each other little by little to solve this issue.
You'll be able to a regain a happy relationship.
- Robin? - I mentioned this earlier.
I think it's because both of you are too stubborn.
I think it's an issue.
It's an issue.
I think it's an issue.
I don't think it's an issue.
There's a saying. "Men are babies."
I think if she waits for a little while, he'll become a great husband.
Think of him as a baby.
Love your husband more.
- Okay. - He's your only family.
If you think it's an issue for our guest, press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, - In 5, 4,
- 3, 2, 1, - 3, 2, 1,
Stop.
Do you have any last words you want to say?
Tell him now.
Call him "honey" or "hubby" for us.
- I like "honey." - Did you ever call him "honey"?
- No. - Really?
Try it.
(Awkward)
(She feels to awkward to call him differently.)
- She can't say it. - Why can't she say it?
- Say it. - Honey.
Good job.
Honey.
We fought so much over little things.
We wasted so much time.
I hope we can control our temper and consider each other's feelings.
I hope we'll live happily and have a baby soon.
(Let's live happily and have a pretty baby!)
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Let's see the last digit.
It's 4. Did it receive more than 100 votes?
"Why Are You Doing This To Me?"
(Will this issue become the winner?)
Let's see.
94 votes.
(This issue received 94 votes.)
- Stay happy! - Thank you.
"I'm Scared Of My Wife" wins today.
Congratulations.
Be happy!
I thought I was having a tough time living in a foreign country.
But I came here and realized that everyone was having a tough time.
- You learned something. - It's tough, right?
Yes.
I hope all foreigners will live happily in Korea.
Have a bowl of rice cake soup and be happy!
(Happy New Year everyone!)
Until the day we are all issue-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
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